Umsebenzi wosizi

Kuheleza umoya omncane ekuseni njengoba unogada wezempi ekhipha ifulegi elinezinkanyezi nemigqa ebhokisini eliluhlaza nesiliva, eligoqa, futhi enikeza umfelokazi ifulegi. Ezungezwe izingane zakhe nabazukulu, wamukela buthule ifulege namazwi okwazisa ngenkonzo yomyeni wakhe ongasekho ezweni lakubo.

Kimina bekuwumngcwabo wesibili emasontweni ambalwa nje. Abangane bami ababili, omunye osengumfelokazi, osengumfelokazi, bashonelwa abashade nabo kusenesikhathi. Akekho noyedwa kulaba ababili abashonile owayefinyelele eminyakeni “engamashumi ayisikhombisa” asebhayibhelini.

Iqiniso lempilo

Ukufa kuyiqiniso lokuphila - kithi sonke. Siyamangala ngaleli qiniso uma kushona umuntu esimaziyo nesimthandayo. Kungani kubonakala sengathi asikaze sikulungele ngokuphelele ukulahlekelwa umngane noma othandekayo ngokufa? Siyazi ukuthi ukufa akunakugwenywa, kodwa siphila sengathi asisoze safa.

Njengoba ngokuzumayo sibhekane nokulahlekelwa kwethu kanye nokuba sengozini kwethu, kusafanele siqhubeke. Esikhathini esifushane kakhulu kulindeleke ukuthi senze njengenjwayelo - sibe ngumuntu ofanayo - sibe sazi sonke isikhathi ukuthi ngeke sifane.

Esikudingayo yisikhathi, isikhathi sokudlula osizini - ngobuhlungu, intukuthelo, icala. Sidinga isikhathi sokuphulukisa. Unyaka wesintu ungase ube isikhathi esanele kwabanye hhayi kwabanye. Ucwaningo lubonisa ukuthi izinqumo ezinkulu mayelana nokuthutha, ukuthola omunye umsebenzi, noma ukushada kabusha akufanele zenziwe phakathi nalesi sikhathi. Umfelokazi osemusha noma umfelwa kufanele alinde kuze kube yilapho eselinganisene ngokwengqondo, ngokomzimba nangokomzwelo ngaphambi kokuba enze izinqumo ezibalulekile ekuphileni kwakhe.

Usizi lungakuqeda amandla, lube nzima futhi luqede amandla. Kodwa kungakhathaliseki ukuthi kubi kangakanani, abashonelwe kufanele badlule kulesi sigaba. Labo abazama ukuvimba noma ukugwema imizwa yabo bandisa ulwazi lwabo kuphela. Usizi luyingxenye yenqubo okufanele sidlule kuyo ukuze sifinyelele kolunye uhlangothi - ukuze silulame ngokugcwele ekulahlekelweni kwethu okubuhlungu. Yini okufanele siyilindele ngalesi sikhathi?

Ubudlelwano buyashintsha

Ukushona komngane womshado kuguqula umbhangqwana oshadile ube ongashadile. Umfelokazi noma umfelwa kufanele enze ushintsho olukhulu emphakathini. Abangane bakho abashadile basazoba abangane babo, kodwa ubuhlobo ngeke bufane. Abafelokazi nabafelokazi kumelwe banezele embuthanweni wabo wabangane okungenani oyedwa noma ababili omunye umuntu osesimweni esifanayo. Omunye kuphela umuntu oye wahlupheka ngendlela efanayo ongaqonda ngempela futhi abelane ngomthwalo wosizi nokulahlekelwa.

Isidingo esikhulu sabafelokazi nabafelokazi abaningi ukuxhumana nabantu. Ukukhuluma nomuntu owazi nokuqondayo lokho obhekene nakho kungakukhuthaza kakhulu. Futhi lapho ithuba livela, bangadlulisela induduzo nesikhuthazo esifanayo kwabanye abantu abaswele.

Nakuba kungase kungabi lula kwabanye, kufika isikhathi lapho sidinga ukudedela ngokwengqondo umlingani wethu wangaphambili. Ngokushesha noma kamuva ngeke sisavunyelwa “ukuzizwa sishadile”. Isifungo somshado sihlala “kuze kusehlukanise ukufa”. Uma sidinga ukuphinde sishade ukuze sifinyelele imigomo yethu yokuphila, kufanele sizizwe sikhululekile ukwenza kanjalo.

Impilo yethu nomsebenzi wethu kumele kuqhubeke. Sabekwa kulo mhlaba futhi sanikezwa isikhathi esisodwa sokuphila ukuze sakhe isimilo esizosidinga ingunaphakade. Yebo, kufanele silile futhi akufanele sifushanise lo msebenzi wokulila ngokushesha, kodwa sineminyaka embalwa nje uma kuqhathaniswa nalo mhlaba. Ekugcineni kufanele sidlulele ngale kwalokhu kuhlupheka - kufanele siqale ukusebenza, ukukhonza, futhi siphile impilo ngokugcwele futhi.

Ukuphendula isizungu kanye nomuzwa wecala

Uzoba nesizungu nowakwakho ongasekho isikhathi eside. Yonke into encane ekukhumbuza ngaye izovame ukukulethela izinyembezi. Ungase ungakwazi ukulawula lapho kufika lezo zinyembezi. Lokho kulindelekile. Ungazizwa unamahloni noma unamahloni ukuveza imizwa yakho. Abazaziyo izimo zabo bazoqonda futhi balwazise uthando lwakho olujulile ngowakwakho kanye nomuzwa wokulahlekelwa.
Phakathi nalawo mahora anesizungu, ngeke nje uzizwe unesizungu kodwa futhi uzozizwa unecala. Kungokwemvelo ukubheka emuva futhi uzitshele ukuthi: “Bekungaba ubani?” Noma “Kungani ngingazange?” Noma “Kungani ngenze?” Bekungaba kuhle ukube besiphelele, kodwa asiphelele. Sonke sasingathola okuthile esingazizwa sinecala ngakho lapho omunye wabathandekayo bethu efa.

Funda kulokhu okuhlangenwe nakho, kodwa ungakuvumeli kubambezele. Uma ungakabonisi uthando olwanele noma ukwazisa ngozakwenu, yenza isinqumo manje sokuba umuntu onothando owazisa abanye kakhulu. Ngeke sikwazi ukukhumbula okwenzeka esikhathini esidlule, kodwa ngokuqinisekile singashintsha okuthile ngekusasa lethu.

Abafelokazi abadala

Abafelokazi, ikakhulukazi abafelokazi abadala, bahlushwa ubuhlungu besizungu nosizi isikhathi eside. Izingcindezi zokuma okuphansi kwezomnotho kanye nomphakathi wombhangqwana oshadile esiphila kuwo, kuhlangene nezingcindezi zokuguga, kuvame ukubakhubaza kakhulu. Kodwa uma ungomunye walabo bafelokazi, kufanele wamukele ukuthi manje usunendima entsha ekuphileni kwakho. Kuningi ongakunika ukwabelana nabanye kungakhathaliseki ukuthi uneminyaka emingaki.

Uma imithwalo yemfanelo kumyeni nomndeni ikuvimbile ekuthuthukiseni amanye amathalente akho, manje kungaba isikhathi esikahle sokuwalungisa. Uma kudingeka ukuqeqeshwa okwengeziwe, izikole noma amasemina ngokuvamile ayatholakala. Ungase umangale ukubona ukuthi bangaki abantu abanezinwele ezimpunga kula makilasi. Cishe uyothola ukuthi abanankinga kangako nozakwabo abancane. Kuyamangaza lokho ukuzinikela okujulile ekutadisheni okungakwenza.

Isikhathi sokuthi uzibekele imigomo ethile. Uma imfundo ehlelekile ingeyakho, hlaziya amakhono akho namakhono. Yini ngempela othanda ukuyenza? Iya kumtapo wolwazi ufunde izincwadi ezimbalwa futhi ube uchwepheshe kulo mkhakha. Uma uthanda ukumema abantu, kwenze. Funda ukuba ngumbungazi ovelele. Uma ungakwazi ukukhokhela igilosa edingekayo ngesidlo sasemini noma sakusihlwa, yenza wonke umuntu alethe isidlo. Zibandakanye kakhulu empilweni yakho. Iba ngumuntu othakazelisayo futhi uzobona abanye abantu bekhangwa nguwe.

Nakekela impilo yakho kahle

Isici esibaluleke kakhulu ekuphileni abantu abaningi abangasinaki impilo enhle. Ubuhlungu bokulahlekelwa othile bungavunguza ngokomzimba nangokwengqondo. Lokhu kungaba yiqiniso ikakhulukazi ngamadoda. Manje akusona isikhathi sokudebeselela impilo yakho. Hlela isikhathi sokuhlolwa kwezempilo. Nakekela ukudla kwakho, isisindo, kanye nezinga le-cholesterol. Ubuwazi ukuthi ukucindezeleka kungalawuleka ngokungeza ukuvivinya umzimba okwengeziwe esimisweni sakho sansuku zonke?

Ngokusho kwekhono lakho, thola izicathulo ezinhle ezikhululekile futhi uqale ukuhamba. Yenza uhlelo lokuhamba ngezinyawo. Kwabanye, amahora asekuseni angcono kakhulu. Abanye bangase bakhethe lokhu kamuva emini. Ukuhamba ngezinyawo kuwumsebenzi omuhle ongawuhlanganisa nabangane. Uma ukuhamba kungenakwenzeka kuwe, thola enye indlela ehlakaniphile yokuzivocavoca. Kodwa kungakhathaliseki ukuthi wenzani, qala ukunyakaza.

Gwema utshwala njengendlela yokuzivikela

Qaphela kakhulu ukusetshenziswa kotshwala nezinye izidakamizwa. Abaningi baye bazama ukuqeda izifo zabo ngokusebenzisa kabi imizimba yabo ngophuzo oludakayo noma ukusebenzisa kabi izidakamizwa ezilalisayo. Utshwala akulona ikhambi lokucindezeleka. Kuyisidakamizwa esilalisayo. Futhi njengezinye izidakamizwa, kuyalutha. Abanye abafelokazi nabafelwa baba yizidakwa.

Kuyiseluleko esihlakaniphile ukugwema izinduku ezinjalo. Lokho akusho ukuthi kufanele wenqabe ukuphuza embuthanweni wokuzijabulisa, kodwa ngaso sonke isikhathi ulinganisele kakhulu. Ungalokothi uphuze wedwa. Ukuphuza iwayini, ingilazi engilazini, noma ukuphuza obunye utshwala ukuze ulale ebusuku nakho akusizi. Utshwala buphazamisa imikhuba yokulala futhi bungakwenza ukhathale. Ingilazi yobisi olufudumele isebenza kangcono kakhulu.

Ungazihlukanisi

Qhubeka uthintana nomndeni. Ikakhulukazi owesifazane obhalayo, ashayele ucingo noma agcine ukuxhumana nomndeni. Umfelwa angase abe nokuthambekela kokungazinaki lezi zibopho futhi azizwe ekhishwa inyumbazane ngenxa yalokho. Njengoba isikhathi sihamba, ungase ufune ukuthuthela eduze nomkhaya wakho. Emphakathini wethu ohambahambayo, imindeni ivame ukuhlakazeka. Abafelokazi noma abafelokazi bavame ukutholakala emakhulwini noma izinkulungwane zamakhilomitha kude nezihlobo zabo eziseduze.

Kodwa futhi, ungajahi. Ikhaya lakho osekunesikhathi ukhona, elizungezwe omakhelwane obajwayele, lingase libe yindawo yakho yokukhosela. Hlela ukuhlangana kabusha komndeni, hlola isihlahla somndeni wakho, qala incwadi yomlando womndeni. Iba yimpahla, hhayi isikweletu. Njengakuzo zonke izimo empilweni, akufanele ulinde amathuba. Kunalokho, kufanele uphume uyowathola.

Ngikhonze wena!

Bheka amathuba okukhonza. Zihlanganise nabo bonke ubudala. Abashadile abancane kudingeka bakwazi ukukhuluma nabantu abadala. Izingane zidinga ukuxhumana nabantu abanesikhathi sokuzinaka. Omama abasebancane badinga usizo. Abagulayo badinga ukukhuthazwa. Nikeza ngosizo lwakho noma yikuphi lapho usizo ludingeka khona nalapho ukwazi ukukwenza khona. Ungahlali nje ulinde, ngethemba lokuthi kukhona ozokucela ukuthi uhambe noma wenze okuthile.

Iba umakhelwane okhathazeke kakhulu, ongcono kakhulu efulethini noma endaweni eyinkimbinkimbi. Ezinye izinsuku kuzothatha umzamo owengeziwe kunezinye, kodwa kuzofaneleka.

Ungazinaki izingane zakho

Izingane zibhekana nokufa ngezindlela ezihlukene kuye ngeminyaka nobuntu bazo. Uma unezingane ezisahlala ekhaya, khumbula ukuthi nawe uhlukumezekile ngokufa komngane wakho womshado njengoba nawe uhlukumezekile. Labo ababonakala bedinga ukunakwa okuncane kakhulu kungase kube yilabo abaludinga kakhulu usizo lwakho. Vala izingane zakho osizini lwakho. Uma besho lokhu ndawonye, ​​lokho kuyobenza basondelane njengomkhaya.

Zama ukubuyisela ikhaya lakho esimeni ngokushesha ngangokunokwenzeka. Izingane zakho zidinga ukuzinza ongakunika wena kuphela futhi nawe uyakudinga. Uma udinga uhlu lwezinto okufanele uzenze lwalokho ofuna ukukwenza njalo ngehora, nsuku zonke, kwenze.

Imibuzo ngokufa

Amaphuzu akulesi sihloko yizinto ezibonakalayo ongazenza ukuze usize kulesi sikhathi esinzima kakhulu ekuphileni kwakho. Kodwa ukushona kothandekayo nakho kungaholela ekubeni ungabaze ngokungathi sína injongo yokuphila. Abangane engibabize ngamagama ekuqaleni kwalesi sihloko banomuzwa wokuthi ushonelwe umngane wakho womshado, kodwa abaphelelwa yithemba noma abanathemba ngalokho kulahlekelwa. Bayaqonda ukuthi ukuphila kwalapha namanje kungokwesikhashana nokuthi uNkulunkulu unokuningi akubekele wena nabathandekayo bakho kunobunzima nezilingo zalokhu kuphila okungokwenyama okudlula ngokushesha. Nakuba ukufa kuwukuphela kwemvelo kokuphila, uNkulunkulu ukukhathalela ngokujulile ukuphila nokufa kwawo wonke umuntu ongowabantu Bakhe. Ukufa ngokomzimba akusona isiphetho. UMdali wethu, owazi wonke umzwilili owela emhlabathini, ngokuqinisekile ngeke akukhohlwe ukufa kwanoma yisiphi sezidalwa zakho ezingabantu. UNkulunkulu uyakwazi lokhu futhi uyakukhathalela wena nabathandekayo bakho.

nguSheila Graham