Inhlebo

Embukisweni wethelevishini waseMelika othi "Hee Haw" (kusukela ngo-1969 kuya ku-1992 nomculo wezwe kanye nemidwebo) kwakukhona ingxenye yamahlaya "nabesifazane abane abayizinhlebi" becula ingoma encane amazwi ayo ahamba kanje: "Yizwa, yizwa .... akuthina esigijima sisakaza amahlebezi, ngoba, ngoba...akusibona abagibela inhlebo, futhi ngeke...ngeke siziphinde, hee-haw futhi silungele, ngoba ngomzuzwana. Uyazi ukuthi yini entsha?" Kuzwakala kumnandi kwesokudla? Kunezinhlobo ezahlukene zokuhleba. Eqinisweni, kukhona inhlebo enhle, inhlebo embi, ngisho nenhlebo engcolile.

Inhlebo enhle

Ingabe ikhona into efana nokuhleba okuhle? Empeleni, inhlebo inezincazelo eziningana. Enye yazo ihlobene nokucobelelana ngezindaba okukha phezulu. Lokhu kumayelana nokugcinana ku-loop. "UMaria waphinda wadaya izinwele zakhe". "UHans uthole imoto entsha". "UJulia unengane". Akekho obengacasuka uma ulwazi olunjalo olumayelana nabo lusatshalaliswa. Lolu hlobo lwengxoxo lusisiza ukuba sakhe ubudlelwano futhi lungakhulisa ukuqonda nokwethembana phakathi komunye nomunye.

Inhlebo embi

Enye incazelo yokuhleba ibhekisela ekusabalaleni kwamahemuhemu, ikakhulukazi azwelayo noma ayimfihlo. Ingabe simagange kangako ukuba sazi izimfihlo zothile eziyihlazo? Akunandaba ukuthi ziyiqiniso noma cha. Izinto ezifana nalezi akumele ziqale zingamanga, kodwa kancane kancane zisuke zisuka kubangani zidlulele kwabanye abangani abasondelene nazo, bona bazidlulisele kwabasondelene nabo, ukuze ekugcineni imiphumela ibe bahlanekezelwe impela, kepha bayakholwa bonke. Njengoba isisho sithi: "Umuntu uthanda ukukholelwa lokho okuhletshelwe omunye ngemuva kwesandla". Lolu hlobo lokuhleba lungalimaza kuze kube sezingeni lokulimaza. Ukuhleba okubi kubonakala kalula yiqiniso lokuthi ingxoxo iyama ngokushesha lapho isihloko singena ekamelweni. Uma ungalokothi ukusho ngokuqondile kumuntu, ngakho-ke akufanelekile ukuphinda.

Inhlebo embi

Inhlebo embi noma enobungozi yakhelwe ukonakalisa isithunzi somuntu. Lokho kudlulela ngaphezu kokudlulisa okuthile okuzwakele. Lokhu kumayelana namanga enzelwe ukudala ubuhlungu nosizi olujulile. Kulula ukungena ekusakazweni nge-Intanethi. Ngeshwa, abantu bakukholwa okuphrintiwe ngisho nangaphezu kwalokho obekuhlebezwa ezindlebeni zabo.

Lolu hlobo lokuhleba lubonakala lungenabo ubuntu kuze kube yilapho umuntu eba isisulu salokho kunengeka. Abafundi abakhohlakele basebenzisa leli qhinga kwabanye abafundi abangabathandi. Ubuxhwanguxhwangu ku-inthanethi bubangela ukuba intsha eningi izibulale [ukuzibulala]. EMelika, lokhu kubizwa nangokuthi i-bullycide. Akumangalisi ukuthi iBhayibheli lithi: “Umuntu wamanga ubanga ukuxabana, nomnyundeli wahlukanisa abangane.” ( IzAga 1 Kor.6,28). Uthi futhi, “Amazwi omhlebi anjengemibiko, agwinywa kalula.” ( IzAga 1 Kor.8,8).

Kufanele sikucacele lokhu: Inhlebo ifana nophaphe oluncane oluhanjiswa luye endaweni ethile lomoya. Thatha izimpaphe eziyishumi uzishayele emoyeni. Bese uzama ukubamba zonke izimpaphe futhi. Lowo kungaba ngumsebenzi ongenakwenzeka. Kuyafana nokuhleba. Lapho nje usuqale indaba yokuhleba, awukwazi ukuyibuyisa ngoba ishaywa kusuka endaweni eyodwa kuya kwenye.

Iziphakamiso zokuthi kufanele sibhekane kanjani nazo kahle

• Uma kunenkinga phakathi kwakho nomunye umuntu, yixazululeni phakathi kwenu. Ungatsheli muntu ngakho.
• Yiba nenhloso lapho othile elahla ukunganeliseki kwakhe kuwe. Khumbula, uzozwa kuphela umbono womuntu oyedwa.
• Uma othile eqala ukukutshela amahemuhemu, kufanele ushintshe isihloko. Uma isiphazamiso esilula singasebenzi, yithi, "Siqala kabi ngale ngxoxo. Asikwazi yini ukukhuluma ngokunye?” Noma uthi, “Angizizwa ngikhululekile ukukhuluma ngazo ngaphandle kokungabaza abanye abantu.”
• Ungasho lutho ngabanye abantu ongeke ukusho phambi kwabo
• Lapho ukhuluma ngabanye, zibuze le mibuzo elandelayo:
  Ingabe kuyiqiniso (esikhundleni sokuhlotshiswa, ukusonteka, ukwenziwa)?
  Ingabe kuyasiza (kuwusizo, kuyakhuthaza, kuyaduduza, kuyaphilisa)?
  Ingabe kuyakhuthaza (kuyajabulisa, kufanelekile ukulingiswa)?
  Ingabe kuyadingeka (njengeseluleko noma isixwayiso)?
  Ingabe inobungane (esikhundleni sokucasuka, ukubhuqa, ukungalawuleki)?

Ngemuva kokuzwa lokhu komunye umuntu futhi manje sikudlulisela kuwe, ake sibize le nhlebo enhle ongayitshela umuntu ozama ukusakaza inhlebo embi kuwe - ngaleyo ndlela uvimbele amahemuhemu ukuba angabi mabi.

nguBarbara Dahlgren

Inhlebo